HOUSE OF ROBERTS BLOG

I’m going to let you in on a little secret about my life and how I have navigated it for the past 14+ years. A lot of my good ideas in work and in life have not come from me but from my wife. I’d like you to think that I am this pinnacle of wisdom for my family and every move that we have made has come from my genius, but that would be a lie. Now do I have some good ideas? Of course, I do. Am I the leader of my home? Yes. As the man in my home, I am instructed by God to lead it. Does that mean though that it is all on me to do that? No. It is not all on me and that is why God sent me what the book of Genesis calls “a helper” in my wife, Gabrielle. Dad, your wife is supposed to be a helper to you and she is a gift to you, from God, to help lead your family.

I think a lot of guys don’t access the gift that is their wife and as a result, they are not operating in full capacity as the leader of their home. Here are a few observations that I have made about our wives, now these are generalities and not absolutes so your wife might not be like this but I think most are. Our wives are full of wisdom. I don’t think it's a mistake that in the book of Proverbs, when it refers to “wisdom” it calls it a “she.” Dad, your wife is really smart and she is full of wisdom so you need to see her for the resource that she is and actually ask her for help, and when she speaks, listen to what she says. Yes, she may use a lot of words to explain her point and you will have to fight to stay focused but what she has to say is what you need to hear. I can’t tell you how many times, my wife has given me a thought or an idea concerning my work or our children that was the wisdom of God, and I’m grateful that I actually had the humility and good sense to listen to what she had to say.

Dad, your wife is discerning as well. Most women are feelers, they sense things in the spirit. They pick up on ideas or opportunities, they can also make a good read on a person. It is how God made them! Most guys are logical and see things for what they are, God has gifted women to feel and see beyond what is in front of them. Many times, when we make moves in our home, it starts with Gabrielle sensing something. Now do we move right away when she “feels something?” No. However, when she does, she communicates it to me and then we pray about it, discuss it, and wait on it for a bit and if it seems like something we should do, we act on it. It’s an incredible way to lead your home and has kept us on God’s path for these 14+ years. 

Great leaders surround themselves with the right people who will help make their company or division successful. They also work to create a healthy culture of collaboration within their company. As a dad, you are the leader of your home and you should want nothing less for your family. You want your home to be full of love and life. You want your children to be growing, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and physically. Therefore, you have the responsibility to create that, but you can’t do it on your own. Yes, you should have mentors in your life that will speak into you. Yes, you need to surround yourself with a good group of guys to keep you accountable. You also need to work with the most important person in your home, your wife, to lead your family to where God wants it to be. 

Will this be easy? No, especially if you have not operated in this way before, but nothing is easy when you start at it for the first time. However, it is worth the growing pains to create a beautiful synergy between you and your wife. Will your wife need to grow in her gifting? Yes. So give her space to grow and give her encouragement along the way. Could it be that what you have been asking God for, He has already sent you in the form of your wife? I think he has, so enjoy the journey with her!