HOUSE OF ROBERTS BLOG

 I have been an extravert my whole life. Always needing and loving to be around people! I love rooms filled with people I don’t know because it's full of new opportunities and fresh conversations. I am the person that talks to you if you are waiting in line with me. I have no problem inviting you to church even though you just met me one minute ago. It’s one of the reasons being in full-time ministry has been one of my greatest joys because it's working with, meeting new, and loving on people full time…which is my JAM!

Que Motherhood-aka the greatest relational shift of my life. When I became a mom, I wish I could tell you it was an easy adjustment for me BUUUUT it wasn’t. I felt in over my head, unqualified, frustrated, and lonely. All the sudden my time was not my own and I was now ruled by a 21in long 11lb human calling the shots on how my days would go. Don’t get me wrong I say all these “sad” words but I was also obsessed, deeply madly in love, and wouldn’t ever change becoming a mom. It really was a diverse amount of feelings I felt. Motherhood was all-consuming and although my soul ached for community I was also exhausted thinking about hanging out with anyone. I am so grateful for the “seasoned” moms who rallied around me in motherhood. That called me multiple times a week, that stopped in with coffee, prayed with me, that talked me off the ledge thinking that somehow Ford had contracted the rare rash only found in the deep parts of the Amazon, that told me to go for a walk, or shave my legs, or go make out with my husband. People that I had always loved being around in the “big rooms” now become my community in the “small rooms”. Really that’s where they became family. See real community isn’t just formed in the cute, sweet, fluffy moments of life, it’s also formed in the hard, tearful, confusing moments that you walk through life with people. 

Motherhood has made me so uncomfortably aware of how I needed people in my life. I mean I knew (head knowledge) we needed community because I see in the word, how God set us up to do this life with each other and in families, but all of a sudden in motherhood I KNEW (heart knowledge) I needed community. It’s truly been a game changer in motherhood to have other mom friends around me to share my heart with, to ask for prayer from, to go and laugh with, to bounce ideas off of. I couldn’t do it without the women around me praying and cheering me on!

In fact, when I meet a new mom anywhere I ask them two things: 1. How are you? And typically I ask this with a tearful, deep empathetic tone ha! 2. I ask do you have a good community around you? I try to always share this because it has been such a powerful way the Lord has taught me to do life. I am convinced we aren’t meant to do this life by ourselves. We need the people to cry with, laugh with, pray with, and reason with, the friend who will speak truth to you when the enemy is trying to get you to believe a lie. We need each other! Proverbs 27: 9 TPT says, “Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence.” YES YES YES! Amen!!

So I ask you, Mom…How are you? Do you have community? Think and pray on this. Allow the Lord to encourage you in this, change your heart, change your desires in this area. Pray and ask Him to send the right people to you, to do life with! He will! Even if it takes a minute…Don’t lose heart, He is aligning your feet right where they should be. Put yourself out there, join a group at church, ask someone to coffee, or go for a walk, and thank God all along that He is bringing you those friends that are going to sharpen you and refresh your soul all at the same time! Praying this for you! You got this Mom!!